This week’s Provocative Question is about style and expression. I just love how these questions really make me think about things I normally do not focus on. Let’s see where this answer takes me.
What’s your style?
Fandango provides the following guidance in answer this question this week: This week’s provocative question is about “style.” What do I mean by style? Well, as Shakespeare might say, there’s the rub. According to my extensive research, style refers to a person’s particular way of expressing themselves — whether that’s through style of clothing, writing style, preferred hair style, or style of architecture. It’s the total combination of the way a person dresses, talks, writes, moves their body, etc. Simply put, style is how we express our inner being outwardly. This includes all of our thoughts, emotions, interests, and values. Everything on the outside is merely a reflection of what’s on the inside.
I guess we all have a style, even if it is a combination of many styles, making the actual individual style uniquely individual.
How I dress…well, I work in a professional setting during the day, so there is that, but although I enjoy looking professional, if I didn’t have to dress up, I wouldn’t. My skirts and tops are plain and functional. I never wear heels. Also, I am Muslim, so there are certain requirements for how I dress outside of my home. My preferred style, however, would be comfortable jeans or yoga pants and a t-shirt or tank top. I do NOT like “labels”*. Just comfort. This would go for hair style as well. I wear a scarf (hijab) so I don’t have to do anything special to my hair. I am not patient enough to fuss with it at home. A bun or ponytail is my go to – and before my hands hurt 24/7, a braid.
*There was one time I found a Betsey Johnson dress at a consignment store and I HAD to have it. I never wore it because, well, it looked like a Good’n Plenty box of candy threw up all over stretchy spandex, but it WAS Betsey Johnson. That was my one and only label incident.
My writing style – this suggestion might be more of a hint into my “style” than dress. I try to be funny – all the time. I love to hear laughter and I NEED (desperately need) to laugh at my quirky behaviors and reactions to things in my life. Laughing, whether a full-on belly laugh or a sarcastic snort, is like an adrenaline shot for me.
Emotions expressed outwardly was an interesting concept for me to think of for this question. Although medicated to help control my emotions, I can tell you that, despite medication, I struggle with slowing my brain down and the constant zipping around tripping over all my emotions – having angry discussions with my husband even though he is no where near me at the time nor did he do the things I am furious with him for – or crying when the soft breeze rustles the leaves out of shear awe for all the beauty surrounding me – and being so overwhelmed with love I literally feel like my heart is going to explode – to being so irritated with opposing counsel/parties at work, I burn bridges shutting them down and putting them in their place without thinking about the long-term consequences. I think that because of the NOISE constantly in my head, my outward expression of that style is to be plain. Muted colors, no patterns most of the time, and just basically a quiet style of dress. It is a reflection of what I desperately want on the inside as opposed to the inside showing on the outside.
Architectural style – HA! If I could live in a log cabin with minimal amenities, I think I would be very happy. I would need a clean bathroom/shower, a decent kitchen and that’s about it. Well, I would need internet. I would miss reading all the blog posts and what would I do without Dr. Google? I don’t know, nor understand, architecture as an expression of oneself. I am thankful to have a roof over my head. I don’t need shops or city life, I crave quiet and solitude. Although…I think wanting to live in a cabin with minimal amenities, does, in fact, express my style.
What about the style of music or form of art one likes? Is this also an expression of style? For music, I listen to anything (except jazz…I HATE jazz) that has lyrics that move me. Many of the songs I listen to would be considered “angry” or “angst” music, but I don’t see it that way. Instead of a cry for help, I hear battle cry or anthem and it lets me express emotions I have to hold inside (or risk being locked up in a mental institution). I love art and can spend hours in a museum, but I am not married to one particular time period or style. I just love the effort and talent it took to create something so intricate and beautiful. There is something about standing in front of a painting and trying to feel what the artist was feeling when he/she created it.
So if you put all of this “stuff” together, I suppose I would answer FPQ this week as my style is quiet, down-to-earth, borderline hippy/crunchy, without need for expensive things to make me happy. Just comfort, love and laughter. It is an expression of all that I want my INSIDE to convey more-so than what my INSIDE expresses outwardly. But, when I stop the craziness for a second, I see I am already truly blessed to comfort, love and laughter, and so much more, and I appreciate that this question reminds me of that.